You are friendly and get along with everyone. But when it comes to your boyfriend’s mom, your charisma has no effect. What could be wrong with you? Whatever it is, you should be grateful for her existence, she’s the reason you got to meet an amazing guy.
So why does he despise you? Well, that’s why you’re here … to find the answer to your question. It’s about time you figured out how to fix the gap between you and your “maybe” future mother-in-law.
You are afraid of losing your child.
It is natural for a mother to be afraid of losing her child to a girl she does not fully know. In short, he still doesn’t trust you. If you see that your relationship with your child is getting serious and could end in marriage, the tendency is for you to freak out. He has not prepared for a life without his offspring. He will consider you a threat to his happiness.
So this is what you have to do, spend some time with her. Make an effort to get the two of you to know each other. Your boyfriend’s mother needs to know that she can depend on you to care for her most precious child.
She only wants the best.
Put yourself in his shoes, would you stop loving your son? As a mother, you want to make sure that your son only gets the best girlfriend. This will make her treatment a bit harsh on you. But don’t worry, she may be hostile to you for now, but that will change if you can show her that you are good for her child. Do not take her actions personally, this is normal behavior for a mother. Some are too good at hiding their feelings. Be positive that your relationship would be better. Just give him a reassurance, show him how great you are as a person.
She longs to be a part of your life.
When a person falls in love, they tend to focus their attention on the person they adore. When the mother realizes this, she begins to feel that she will soon be eliminated from her son’s life. It is simply an act of jealousy. Their harsh words or actions towards you are only their defense mechanism. When this happens, you must assure her that even if you are in a relationship with her son, she will still be a part of him and your life. Make her feel like you are happy to have a second mom.
Mothers are quite emotional, do her a favor and be the first to understand. Don’t be irrational and let him choose between you and his mother. If the worst turns out to be worse, let your partner do the talking. Stay strong girl.
