Male chastity and orgasm denial is a very common fantasy for men, but there’s a problem: you can’t really do it on your own.
well you they can, but that’s not what gets men going. Because, the thrill of it is that the man feels that he has no choice in the matter and it is his wife or his girlfriend doing it “to” him instead of “with” him.
This need to feel out of control is central to the hundreds of silly stories on men’s blogs and forums claiming everything from the mysterious existence of the “inevitable chastity belt” (totally fake) to wives and girlfriends using “blackmail” “in the form of pictures and divorce (too dumb for words).
So he easy The answer is to make your wife hold your key and not let you orgasm, right?
Right.
But the problem with that is that it can be simple, but it is not always easy.
Talking about candid sex can be difficult at the best of times for couples, and coming clean about something quite out of the ordinary like male chastity and orgasm denial is even more difficult.
And as a result, many men spend decades (literally) with this burning desire that they have and never, ever get around to asking for what they want. Which is a terrible shame, because if you present it the right way, male chastity can be very attractive to a woman.
So here are three tips to help you ask for what you want, without all the embarrassment and heartache:
- Don’t make it all about great sex. From your point of view, you probably think that promising her hot, no-holds-barred sex will be a surefire hit. And while you can be sure her wife will enjoy this aspect of male chastity, it is NOT a big selling point for her from the start. Instead, focus on the increased emotional intimacy and connection that she will enjoy with you. That is much more tempting for most women.
- Don’t tell her that you will bow to her every whim. Not only do you almost certainly not want this (you want a men not a doormat), but he just won’t believe you. You’ve probably made similar promises before, about how you’ll be “more useful around the house”… and you’ve never kept them before, so why would you keep them now? Rather, tell her that her denied orgasms mean that she will naturally be more attentive, similar to how she was when you were first together. She will be able to relate to this as a common and shared experience that you have already had with her. Women are (mostly) looking for better relationsand not just better sex (the latter comes through the former).
- Show him, don’t just tell him. Talk is cheap and easy. Therefore, it is generally much more effective to “walk the walk” rather than just “talk the talk.” The next time you make love, focus on her and unilaterally give up your own pleasure. Don’t make a big thing out of it and don’t draw unnecessary attention to the fact that you’re more caring and loving (but DON’T bother her for sex!). If you then bring up the subject, the Following Every time you make love after this (eg, “Last time I didn’t have an orgasm and I felt so much closer and more attentive to you”), she’ll get the message. This opens the doors for honest and open communication between you.
By following these three simple steps, you’re much more likely to get what you want without having to drop hints (which she just never gets) or have to blurt out what, to her, is a very confusing and sometimes confusing message. scary.
Whatever you do, don’t make the mistake of reading ridiculous stories on internet blogs about how each wife walks secretly wanting to deny her man’s orgasms.
Instead, he’ll pay you to listen to someone over 13 years old as a keyholder, so…
