Every woman wants to feel loved, she wants to feel warm, safe … special … and that she is the only woman for you, the only one you look at, pay attention to, touch, caress, kiss … and say those three little words … “I love you” … and seriously … you are not communicating none of that.
What you is it so communicating is …
“I am nothing without you. I need you, you are the center of my world, the precious water I need to live, and you have totally conquered me”
Feeling like you love her is great, and in the famous words of American Pie’s father Jim …
“Perfectly normal and perfectly natural” …
But you must control those feelings, or they will control you … and that’s when things go wrong.
Imagine this …
… you walk away from the long and passionate kiss, still feeling the pressure of her lips against yours, the warmth of her soft and warm body against yours … you look deeply into her eyes and are captivated by the heat and passion of the moment you say …
“I love you” …
… she melts in your arms and …
Now, come back to reality and remember how you feel when you say the words.
Do you feel strong, powerful, in control, like a man …
However, do you feel weak, submissive …
At the moment, everything is great, and they both have a great time … but … the next day … when real life returns … on a deep subconscious level … she thinks to herself. …
“I got it”.
This is very bad news. It means that she has power over you, and humans are not very good when it comes to controlling power. Usually power is always abused, just look at what current governments and banks are doing with their power. The powerless always get fucked.
Only power respects power, that is why a relationship must be on an equal footing, otherwise the stronger party will dominate, and the weaker party (the lover) will end up living on their knees.
Do you want to know what love really is?
Thousands of years ago, someone asked the question …
“What is love? How do you describe it, how do you know when he’s in love with someone and how do you know he’s in love with you?”
Here is the answer.
Do you remember the story of Gulliver’s travels?
Gulliver sets out on a great journey and ends up in the country of Lilliput, which is inhabited by tiny six-inch-tall people. They capture Gulliver and bind him … not with two or three big, thick chains … but with thousands of tiny, thin threads. The combined effect of the thousands of threads keeps Gulliver tied.
This is similar to love. Love is not buying someone a new car, or taking your loved one on vacation to the Bahamas, or saying “I love you.”
It is a combination of thousands of little things … a look, a touch, a smile, a gentle non-sexual caress … these are the signs of love.
Now, get back to the exciting moment …
… you walk away from the long and passionate kiss, still feeling the pressure of her lips against yours, the warmth of her soft and warm body against yours … you look deeply into her eyes and are captivated by the heat and passion of the moment you say …
“Right now, as I look into your beautiful emerald green eyes … and I can feel the warmth of your body against mine … you are the most special person on the entire planet. You are special because of the way you always see the best. In other people, you act as my moral compass, keeping me on the path I want to be on, and you always … tolerate my annoying habits. That is why you are the most special and important person in my life. … “
Isn’t it better than saying “I love you”?
There is nothing romantic about saying “I love you” … but … when you give a very detailed description of why you think she is special … that is romance, and it makes her feel so good inside.
These romantic moments are very powerful and very memorable, but they can’t happen every day, once or twice a week is enough. If you do this too often, it loses its effect.
But the little things, the little signs of love, must be happy every day. Shower her with sincere and genuine compliments, and non-sexual physical contact, to constantly communicate that you ‘love’ her … in a way that doesn’t make you weak or submissive, and most importantly … it doesn’t. make her think “got it”.
Did your ex end the relationship because he thought he had won you over? Maybe, maybe not … either way … you need to do something right now to fill the great empty void in your life.
When it comes down to it … you need that special woman in your life … someone to come home to at the end of the day … someone to hold, touch, be intimate with … spend your life with … .
Right now, you must make a decision …
Option 1 – Continue as is; wanting to hold her in your arms again and feel her soft and warm body against yours … missing her, secretly waiting for her to text you, looking for her every time you leave the house …
Option 2: go ahead and attract a new girl into your life … start over
Option 3 – Create a new relationship with your ex … and bring it back into your life … without all the nonsense associated with the old relationship.
