One of the best places to meet a cougar is on a dating site. Here are 10 things you should never say/ask when contacting a Cougar online.
1. How old are you? – Is it necessary to say this? Either you’re interested in her or you’re not. Does it really matter how old she is if you think she’s hot?
2. Hello/How are you? – One word or one line emails will get you nowhere. About 50% of the puppies that come up to me online make this mistake. What percentage do I respond to? 0%. If you’re emailing a Cougar for the first time and that’s all you have to say, good luck.
3. You look good for your age. – You may think this is a compliment, but mentioning a woman’s age is an indirect compliment at best. Why does it have to be ‘for her age’? If it looks good, it looks good. Period.
4. Can I be your Puppy? – Would you ever say “Can I be your boyfriend” to a stranger? Probably not. It is something that happens naturally or is discussed in “the talk”. You may be trying to be funny, but it sounds like you’re desperate or want to be a pet!
5. Have you had botox? – Asking about any cosmetic procedure is “very uncomfortable”. If he wants you to know if any work has been done, he will tell you. As long as you think she’s hot, who cares?
6. I love cougars. – This may sound like a compliment, but it’s not. We don’t want you to be interested in us simply because we fit into a category. We want you to love us for, well, us! It would be the same as a woman saying: “I love athletes”. It also sounds like you’re leaving out the last part of the sentence, “I love cougars and want to have sex with as many as possible.”
7. Did you get my photos? – A profile without photos immediately raises a red flag. What are you hiding? So if he asks for photos and you don’t respond, don’t write to him again to see if he received them. Yes, she did, and she’s not interested. Move on.
8. I hope there’s more to you than your beauty – And we hope there’s more to you than repeating lines someone gave you to try and shake our confidence. Too many guys are using that line these days and it’s getting stale.
9. Tell me something interesting about yourself – Ugh! Can you be more vague? Not having a specific question makes you look like you don’t have conversational skills, and that’s a big drawback for cougars.
10. Call me. My number is 555-xxx-xxxx. This also makes you seem desperate or undemanding. You’re giving your number to a complete stranger. Women want to feel special, and by giving out her number without waiting to see if she responds to your email, she feels like a number.
